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Thursday, January 6, 2011

Realest Words and Truth 1: Females

*DISCLAIMER* These opinions are not only mine, but other guys shared their views and opinions as well.



Females O Females, ones that we can't live em and can't live without em. Sometimes they'll be the best thing that'll happen to you and other times they'll be the ones that can cause the most damage emotionally. So here's the way i and some other guys look at females..opinions, experiences, all that good stuff.
  • I dont understand why females do some of the things they do. 
  • why they blame all of the bad things on us good guys, when they know they are the main cause for their own problems.
  • why they choose to screw the good guys out for the wrong type of guys, then come back to the good guy that's been there for them and repeat the same process, and keep hurting the good guy until the guy is fed up with her and moves on, leaving the girl that played him unhappy and alone with the wrong type of guy.
  • why i put up with those types of females at all
  • why another girl claims they are better than the previous girl, and turns out that they are the same exact type of girl.
  • why most of these girls operate off one brain cell when it comes to guys.
  • why most of these girls come up with so many excuses and can't be real and straight up.
Honestly, I dont have the answers to those questions myself, and if i did i would answer them for all guys, but im just as confused as other guys who think the same way i think. So let's break this down from my point of view.

Recently, i, myself have started categorizing the girls i have come across in my lifetime. I'll give a rating from 1-10 with 10 being that i run into these type of girls all the time.
  • Bullshitters and floppers- these are the chicks that will make come up with every excuse in the book to not see you or plan things with you. Even when plans are set in stone, they back out at the last second because of "something that comes up". The funny thing about these chicks is that they'll be the ones that want you to keep babying them and give them lots of attention. Rating: 7.5/10. I do run into these types of chicks often, but it's gotten to the point to where it's ridiculous.But i know how to avoid these girls. 
  • One brain celled females- these are the chicks that blame nearly all their problems on men and take no responsibility for their own problems. Their main catchphrase "why are all guys..blah blah blah" or "all guys are stupid because blah blah blah" or even "I'm through with guys blah blah blah". The first thing i say to these chicks is the only reason you say these things is because your dumass chooses the wrong type of guys because your going by what you THINK you want instead of what you REALLY need in a guy (hence the one brain celled title). And the reason why you chicks are lonely as hell is because i'll bet you ANYTHING that there was a good guy in your life that cares for you, that actually gave a flying fuck when nobody else did, who picked you up when nobody else could, but instead you chose the wrong type of guy and left the guy who was there for you hanging out to dry. These chicks deserve a brown paper bag of shame.. Rating 5/10. Even though i don't run into these chicks personally, i have heard stories or seen facebook statuses saying these types of things. Here's hoping that you find the rest of the brain cells to make the right decisions in life.
  • Flapjackers- these type of chicks are the sneaky ones. these would be consider the "pimp" type for females. It is amazing how they play the "game". It's like they are chameleons, can change depending on how the environment they are in. They could look at you with the straight face and tell you one thing, and as soon as your not looking, run to another man and tell him the same thing, and maybe twist some words around. Their flaw is that they don't take into account the fact that us guys have a sort of network, just like you females have a network when you talk about us. we KNOW what kind of girl you are and what you do (even though some of us wanna prove our friends wrong and it ends up backfiring). Even still, I am impressed how they can live with themselves knowing they do all these things. Now to clairfy, most of you will think these are hoes which is pretty accurate, but i'd say these are more of low key, underground hoes rather than your typical average hoe. Rating: 2/10. I don't run into these types of girls and if i do, it's probably a couple of em every blue moon. Either that or i just don't even give attention to these types of girls.
  • Seducers- pretty self explanatory, they have a killer body, good looks, a sexy voice to match. I believe it's a mind game against these types of girls, one false move and their playing you like puppets on a string. they go along with flapjackers but on a different type of level. meaning, they will kiss and never tell or basically a home wrecker or friendship sabotage. Rating: 1/10. I rarely come across these girls at all and if I did, I would've spotted you a mile away and stayed away from you.
  • The Moody- these are the chicks that i really don't like. these are the chicks that NEED to be babied and cared for 24/7. One wrong word or a mistake and they are all depressed or upset or angry as hell. I honestly believe they have some kind of mental problem..but then again im just making wild guesses here. Rating: 3.5/10. No explanation really needed, just dont care about them.
  • The Relentless- these are chicks that i have to sit back and applaud the effort they give to get me. They know what they want, and will try literally anything to get me..even bad things like sabotage a relationship to get to me. their problem is that they are on a one track mind, and if something goes wrong in their "plans", they usually screw up big time and say the wrong thing and start annoying the living fuck out of me trying to "fix" the problem that they created. But despite all this, these are the chicks that are willing to fight a chick if i got a problem with them, so i know they have my back. Rating: 8/10. Run into these chicks a good deal of the time..hard to shake them off once they start going.

But not all females are bad, some of them are good. The good ones are unfortunately are most likely either taken or i haven't found them yet. It's sad to see that the bad ones really overshadow the good ones and nobody ever gives credit to the good girls when they need it the most. I'll break those kinds of girls down.


  • Winners- these are the chicks that have the complete package. Brains, beauty, and personality. these chicks are the ones that are like the "ride or die" chicks that always got your back no matter what the situation. They'll talk to you even at 4 in the morning when you're feeling down. They'll visit you and take care of you when your sick. They might not be completely perfect and they have their faults, but they come close to perfect as your gonna get. Once you have a winner, i wouldnt suggest losing them or messing up with them because you never know when you'll get another girl like them. These are the type of chicks that I look for whenever i talk to a girl, but they are super hard to find if near impossible. I know that there are some out there, just haven't met them yet. They are honest, and know what they are doing in life, or at least have a good idea of what they want to do. We need more winners in this world, but like i said before they are hard to find.
So here's my theory. If your a female and question yourself on whether you are a winner or not, most likely you're not. You have to know for yourself that you are a winner and have that mentality all the time. If you don't think it, who's gonna think it for you?  Are there more winners out there or are all of them taken? And are there answers to the questions from the beginning? I guess I'll find out for myself as long as im here on this Earth. In the meantime, I got to focus on me and what i wanna accomplish in life.

Got answers to these questions? Or Know of another category? Leave your comments below. Or inbox me if you have my Facebook.

Reflections of A 2010 Year

My first blog.. I always wanted to do this for a long time, and it feels great to finally create a blog and express my opinions to everyone that wants to read this.


Song I'm listening to: Green Light by John Legend

So 2010.. definitely an up and down year. I would honestly say it had more downs for the majority of the year, and then turned around later on the year.


What Was Good About 2010:
  • The Year as in the number 2010: ..always wondered what life would be like in the year 2010. As a kid I thought being in the year 2010 would've meant we would have spaceships and hovercrafts and all that great stuff, but I guess we havent got to that point yet..hey, there's always 2020 haha.
  • Being reunited with my best friend: Out of all this craziness that was 2010, I did reunite with my best friend that I didn't talk to for the 2009 year, when I was going out with my ex..worst decision ever to not talk to her for a year..basically it was because of stupid accusations and reasons that led to that, but im glad to have her back in my life.
  • Found a passion in my life: Going to a community college did help me refocus on what I need to do with my life. It also helped me discover what I like doing, which is radio. I have my own show called the Soul Flight, which plays a R&B songs and some hip hop songs for an hour. I enjoy doing that a lot and it helps that people say I have a voice for radio. At the end of the semester, I got the award for Second Most Average Listeners, in my FIRST semester in radio. Not too bad if i say so myself.
  • Got a Car!
  • Learned a ton of things in school that have real world applications. Always a plus.

 What Went Wrong In 2010

  • Messy Breakup with my ex.. if i had to push a reset button on how i broke up with her, i would've pushed it..but life moves on. best of luck to her.
  • Having to come home from my favorite university: The decision to have to come home from Western Michigan was by far one of the decisions that took me a while to accept. But I got an opportunity to come back, so im pretty much working my ass off to get back to the university I love so much. Great friends and great things are waiting for me, so i'm gonna put in work to get back into that University.
  • Fights and Flings: usually a summer fling lasts only for the..summer.. but to try to get that to last longer than that is not a good idea. I don't usually like to be a heartbreaker nor enjoy being one, but if I aint feeling it, then I gotta do what I gotta do..simple as that.
 Like I said, 2010 had many ups and downs, but through these experiences, It can only make me stronger, make me wiser, make me better.
 Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and best believe i'll turn it around and 2011 WILL be a better year.

Special shoutouts and recognition goes out to those who have supported me this past year and those who will continue to support me throughout my life. Here's to making 2011 a better year!!