Cycle Of Misses

How do you feel when somebody says those three words to you? Not talking about "I Love You", or "I want you". I'm talking about " I miss you". Now the first question you might have is; Who is the person that's saying it to me?  Let's just say anybody, whether it be a friend, loved one, spouse, your child, whomever you wanna choose. From the things I just listed, the general feeling is a good feeling because it's somebody you care about that misses you. Now you're probably asking, "Okay...so what is this blog about this time?" Glad you asked, and I'll dive straight into it.

I feel like those three words get tossed around a lot, and those three words have lost the power that they once held. Usually the cases happen between females or sometimes when a female says that to a male. But mostly it's females that say this a lot more than males.

*Quick sidenote* This is mainly from my personal experience and eyes from girls doing this to me. Keep that in mind. But I kept it to people just in case females can relate to this blog too.*

Normally I don't have a problem with somebody saying they miss me, I think it's cool. BUT what I DO have a problem with is somebody that says they miss me, and they initiate this thing I like to call the "cycle of misses". The cycle of misses is what I refer to as somebody who says they miss you because of certain situations that either happened to them or something they are going through, NOT because they really do miss you. You can probably relate to some of these situations because you know people that actually do this, or have done this to you.

The first cycle is those people that say they miss you, but they really don't. They just say it to say it, and pretty much want some attention from somebody (you) and they hope you'll give them some. These can also be classified as those types of people that always wanna say "Hey let's hangout sometime!" but they never plan anything or even attempt to wanna hang out with you. Or better yet, the people that say "Here's my number text me sometime!" and you end up texting them but they don't text back or rarely text back. You never hear from them again until they pop up again.

Second cycle comes from something I'm starting to see quite often nowadays. This happens when somebody goes through a bad breakup or ending a relationship, and then all of a sudden they come outta the blue saying they miss you and now for those few moments you are the best person ever and they wanna talk to you all day, everyday. This leads to them flirting a lot with you and could also lead into the first situation. They pretty much want you to fill up the "rebound" or the "picker-upper" role so that they feel good enough to go out and get another boyfriend/girlfriend. Then you never hear from them until they break up with somebody else.

The third and final cycle usually comes from a former friend or somebody you were once cool with. This usually happens either when you two have beef with each other, or they did something wrong to you then wanna say  "I'm sorry, I miss you" or some kind of variation of it. The only different thing about this compared to the other two cycles is that in this one you have the choice whether or not to keep in contact with these people or not.

Personally, I don't say I miss you unless I really mean it. Even when I do, I say it to two types of people. Those two types are family, and a loved one. It doesn't feel right to say I miss you when I don't talk to you at all or not that much. That's just me though, and my opinion. Whatever the case is, saying " I Miss You" is definitely lost it's power and it's edge that it was supposed to originally have.

The Decision: Part 4

It's been a while since I last posted, and I know I said that I would be more frequent with my posts, but that hasn't happened and I apologize, but I figured I'd update you on what's happened since Part 3. This blog post is more like an Update than a blog post.

Surprisingly enough, a lot has happened since August (according to my last post). Things such as :

In terms of the new: 

- Recruiter

- Place for tech school

- Friends

- Group

- People

In terms of the old: 

- Ship out date

- Same ol Belleville

- Still no job but at this point it really doesn't matter

The old category is pretty self explanatory, so I'm gonna focus on the new because I think that's way more important right now.

So where to begin? Might as well start from the top. Some will be short, some might have a little more detail.

Recruiter

First question that might pop up as you're reading this, "You got a new recruiter?? How and Why?"

Well, here's what happened. Before I start this topic, shout out to the person who was formally known as Ssgt. Ferris. Okay, had to get that out of the way.

This happened around mid to late September, and I received a phone called from the Technical Sergeant asking me to meet with him. I thought I was going to be in trouble because that was the first time I ever got called by somebody that high rank, except the time I was called by the Commander of MEPS. When I met him, he told me that Ferris was no longer a Ssgt but instead her title is now Miss or Ms. Ferris  (forgot if she was married or not). Apparently, her and a few other recruiters got in trouble for something they did, and they all got discharged from the military because of that. I wasn't able to get specifics on what exactly they did, but it was bad enough to the point where they got discharged. Haven't had contact with Ferris except a text she sent out saying "I'll be in contact." I guess moral of that story was, you can't get away with anything when it comes to the military.

Place for Tech School

Found out that the Tech School I'm going to after I graduate from BMT is Goodfellow AFB in San Angelo Texas. Pretty excited for it, although I'm curious as to why my tech school is really short (93 days). In any case, I'll make the very best of the time I have there.

Friends/Group

I know this sounds kinda cliche but initially I didnt know if I was gonna make too many friends heading into BMT, because I didnt know anybody else from my area that was going into BMT around the same time as me but thanks to my curiosity, I managed to find a group on Facebook that had a group for people leaving for BMT in the month of November. I met a lot of very cool and interesting people, and some of these people turned out to be my best friends going into BMT. Shout outs to the Mindreaders if you're reading this! Joining the Facebook group made things ten times more easier for me, because it's a good feeling knowing that people are in the same boat with you when they leave for BMT.

Conclusions 


Overall I gotta admit I was definitely nervous, scared, uncertain about going into BMT, but now that I met these people, BMT just seems like a breeze to me, because I know what to expect, and I know I will have friends while I'm down there, which always is a good feeling when you're going through something new and major in your life.

I only have 1 month and a few days before I'm officially shipped out to BMT, and I can't believe how time is flying by so quickly. I'm just ready for this big change in life, ready for new life experiences, and ready to be part of the United States Air Force.