Cycle Of Misses

How do you feel when somebody says those three words to you? Not talking about "I Love You", or "I want you". I'm talking about " I miss you". Now the first question you might have is; Who is the person that's saying it to me?  Let's just say anybody, whether it be a friend, loved one, spouse, your child, whomever you wanna choose. From the things I just listed, the general feeling is a good feeling because it's somebody you care about that misses you. Now you're probably asking, "Okay...so what is this blog about this time?" Glad you asked, and I'll dive straight into it.

I feel like those three words get tossed around a lot, and those three words have lost the power that they once held. Usually the cases happen between females or sometimes when a female says that to a male. But mostly it's females that say this a lot more than males.

*Quick sidenote* This is mainly from my personal experience and eyes from girls doing this to me. Keep that in mind. But I kept it to people just in case females can relate to this blog too.*

Normally I don't have a problem with somebody saying they miss me, I think it's cool. BUT what I DO have a problem with is somebody that says they miss me, and they initiate this thing I like to call the "cycle of misses". The cycle of misses is what I refer to as somebody who says they miss you because of certain situations that either happened to them or something they are going through, NOT because they really do miss you. You can probably relate to some of these situations because you know people that actually do this, or have done this to you.

The first cycle is those people that say they miss you, but they really don't. They just say it to say it, and pretty much want some attention from somebody (you) and they hope you'll give them some. These can also be classified as those types of people that always wanna say "Hey let's hangout sometime!" but they never plan anything or even attempt to wanna hang out with you. Or better yet, the people that say "Here's my number text me sometime!" and you end up texting them but they don't text back or rarely text back. You never hear from them again until they pop up again.

Second cycle comes from something I'm starting to see quite often nowadays. This happens when somebody goes through a bad breakup or ending a relationship, and then all of a sudden they come outta the blue saying they miss you and now for those few moments you are the best person ever and they wanna talk to you all day, everyday. This leads to them flirting a lot with you and could also lead into the first situation. They pretty much want you to fill up the "rebound" or the "picker-upper" role so that they feel good enough to go out and get another boyfriend/girlfriend. Then you never hear from them until they break up with somebody else.

The third and final cycle usually comes from a former friend or somebody you were once cool with. This usually happens either when you two have beef with each other, or they did something wrong to you then wanna say  "I'm sorry, I miss you" or some kind of variation of it. The only different thing about this compared to the other two cycles is that in this one you have the choice whether or not to keep in contact with these people or not.

Personally, I don't say I miss you unless I really mean it. Even when I do, I say it to two types of people. Those two types are family, and a loved one. It doesn't feel right to say I miss you when I don't talk to you at all or not that much. That's just me though, and my opinion. Whatever the case is, saying " I Miss You" is definitely lost it's power and it's edge that it was supposed to originally have.